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Stuck at a crossroads


There comes a time in life when every person reaches a crossroads.  Sometimes it’s at work, other times it’s at home.   Unfortunately I find myself at such a place in several areas of my life, and there are no good choices. 

Throughout my life I’ve always had a plan.  I even had a plan “B”, “C”, and “D”.  I developed that coping skill back in college.  I call it the “What’s the worst that can happen?” technique.  When I was really worried about something I would ask myself, “What’s the worst that can happen?”  I would then make a list (either mental or written depending how freaked out I was) and come up with a plan for each scenario.  Once I had a plan for each eventuality I felt more secure.  It’s a strategy that has served me well through the years.  Usually when I break down the possible outcomes and address each one I end up feeling more confident.  Strangely that doesn’t seem to be the case this time.

Until now I have always known what I was doing.   I had a career path; a clear idea of where I wanted to go.  But what happens when you reach the point where you no longer want to travel this path?  I was so focused on my path that it was practically a straight line.  The problem is that my resume has become so specialized that I don’t seem to be qualified for anything but what I already do. 

My personal life has not been such a linear course.  That path has been filled with so many twists and turns that sometimes I’ve needed breadcrumbs to find my way.  But no matter how used to direction changes I become, it still jars the stomach when I hit a curve.

I’ve always made the best decisions I could based on the information I had at the time.  What I have to figure out now is what to do when I find myself at a crossroads and…

Nothing seems like a good idea at the time.

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  1. December 1, 2010 at 7:15 am

    Beth, this was really excellent. Very though provoking. You know you always have family do matter what decisions you make.

  2. Adrienne Ciletti
    December 2, 2010 at 4:12 pm

    This makes me sad. Do we need to talk?

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