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Hey, the clients are just doing their job

January 29, 2011 1 comment

Many of us come into the field of human services because we want to help change the world.  We want to make life better for others.  Let’s face it, none of us go into it for the money!  I have seen so many bright-eyed new staff members come on board only to be shocked, disappointed, or even hurt when they discover that not everyone wants their help.  Every person with a disability is not cute and cuddly.  Some can be rude, insulting, and even violent, not unlike the rest of the world.  People who are new to the field often take this realization personally, becoming insulted and discouraged.  Read more…


Tales of an unsung heroine: Finding the thanks in a thankless job

January 18, 2011 Leave a comment

Few things are more frustrating than toiling in obscurity.  Even those who are not trying to become famous appreciate recognition for a job well done.  Some people have the fortune (I won’t say good or bad) to end up in a job that most people would consider thankless.  The trick to coping with this type of employment is to find the thanks that may not be readily forthcoming. 

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A leap of faith

December 19, 2010 Leave a comment

A leap of faith.  We’ve all heard the phrase, but what does it really mean to take a leap of faith?  What immediately comes to mind for me is the scene in “Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade”.  Indy reaches the “Leap from the Lion’s Head” in which he has to take a step off a cliff into a seemingly bottomless chasm.  Only after taking that first step does he discover, much to his relief, that it was an optical illusion.  There was actually a sturdy bridge there which he safely crossed.

Of course before taking his leap of faith, Harrison Ford had the benefit of reading the script.  The rest of us unfortunately don’t get that convenient little heads up.  Of course if we got to look ahead it wouldn’t really be much of a test, would it?

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Stuck at a crossroads

November 30, 2010 2 comments

There comes a time in life when every person reaches a crossroads.  Sometimes it’s at work, other times it’s at home.   Unfortunately I find myself at such a place in several areas of my life, and there are no good choices. 

Throughout my life I’ve always had a plan.  I even had a plan “B”, “C”, and “D”.  I developed that coping skill back in college.  I call it the “What’s the worst that can happen?” technique.  When I was really worried about something I would ask myself, “What’s the worst that can happen?”  I would then make a list (either mental or written depending how freaked out I was) and come up with a plan for Read more…

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Men and Women… God’s cruel joke.

November 1, 2010 Leave a comment

I was talking with a friend of mine the other day.  She was telling me about an argument she’d had with her husband.  To us his logic was unfathomable, yet he seemed to think he made all the sense in the world.  It boiled down to one immutable truth.  Boys are weird.  Their logic does not resemble our earth logic.  Although he was probably out with his buddy having the very same conversation about us.   Read more…

Oh for the love of heat

October 23, 2010 Leave a comment

As then saying goes “You never know what you’ve got until it’s gone.”  Well, that’s never been more true for me until now.  Day 8 without a functioning furnace and boy am I FREEEEEEZING!  We’ve had a string of servicemen coming through like a crazy parade, each one finding something else wrong.  My favorite part was when one guy showed up to fix the exhaust fan.  As he pulled the brand new part out of the carton he discovered that it was broken.  Yes, broken… my only response was an incredulous “Are you kidding me??”  Read more…

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There comes a time when you have to choose…

October 16, 2010 Leave a comment

Am I going to improve my life or am I just going to bitch about it?  I am talking specifically about my work in this case.  I have been at my job for approaching 12 years.  First of all, it’s a long time to be doing the same type of thing in the same place.  Of course there have been changes over the years, but unfortunately many of them pull for my weaknesses and not my strengths. 

I am the program director for a nonprofit  community based vocational program for adults with developmental disabilities.  When I first started the job I absolutely loved it.  I enjoyed working with my individuals and I found my duties interesting and challenging.  Although I had to do a budget for my program, it was pretty straight forward.  There were contracts that were taken care of by the accounting people in the main office (or the mothership as I like to call it).   Read more…

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